Celebrating Hafsy: Corporate Executive (Insurance)

“I was struggling with who I was, I was struggling with my career and my personal life was stressed. My life was confusing, stressful, heavy and chaotic…

I am now empowered. I am so SO sure about who I am. I can do whatever I feel like doing! I feel enlightened. You made it so easy. I am in love with this new version of me.”

Hafsy

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

Hi, it’s Gitanjali here from High Definition You and I am joined this week by another wonderful client Hafsy welcome Hafsy!

Hafsy

Thank you, Gita.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

Tell us a little bit about who you are, and what you’re up to in the world.

Hafsy

I’ve been working in insurance for a bit. And it’s also been a mother for over six years. It’s all of these things that I’ve been doing and trying to find who I am truly in the midst of my career and my personal life. But I’ve been working in insurance for quite a while now.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

As you say you’re busy working mum, you’ve got lots of plates in the air, trying to figure out what’s next… What were you really struggling with, when we first crossed paths?

Hafsy

I was struggling with a lot. You know, that’s obviously. I won’t go into everything. But I was going through a period of time where I was struggling with who I was. I was struggling with my career. Because I wasn’t sure if that was what I wanted to do, if I was good at it, if it satisfied, whatever it was I was looking for in a career. And, my personal life was also stressed as a result of work. So, it was just a very confusing, stressful, heavy (I used that word a lot) … It was a very chaotic period in my life, which I don’t feel anymore. But yeah. That was where I was when I met you.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

I remember that conversation. Tell me a bit because you invested in yourself, some people get coaching through their company, and some people choose to get coaching themselves, tell me what resistance came up as part of the decision making to say ‘yes’, to the coaching.

Hafsy

I was referred to you, which is a beautiful thing. I think that’s what pushed me to do it because the lady I spoke to about you said really, really powerful things about you. I couldn’t talk about myself without breaking down without crying. And that was exactly what happened. I met her for the first time and I broke down talking about myself to her. And she said you know what, the first thing she said when I finished crying was; “you need to speak to Gita”.

I saw her as somebody that understood where I was where I was coming from a where I wanted to be. So for her to say “you need to speak to Gita” for me that was that was all I needed. When I met a woman that was busy a mother and a very successful one at that, that could talk about you that way to me that was it. I didn’t need anything more. So, when she told me about you, I just felt this is it. This is who I am. This is who I needed to speak to.

But don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t like I have known anything about coaching prior to talking to you or meeting you. I didn’t know anything about coaching. And I was a bit confused if coaching or therapy was the same. I just needed somebody that would (like you said) show me what I already had, face my mind towards what it is that would give me the best version of me. Yeah, I’m speaking like you now!

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

So, you were in this place, confused and overwhelmed and heavy as you call it, and then we had a conversation and then fast forward 3 months and what’s different give me two or three examples of the results that you’ve seen.

Hafsy

I am empowered, I am empowered. I’m so so sure of who I am, what my abilities are, what my strengths are. I remember when we met, I will talk a lot about my weaknesses and what I couldn’t do and everything that was wrong about my life. And somehow now, I feel so empowered. I can do whatever it is that I feel like doing. I don’t even have to want to do it. If I just feel like it, I think I can do it.

I feel empowered. I feel enlightened.

There was so much about me that I didn’t know so so much that you just made it so easy for me to see, for me to explore. And you always told me that it’s always been there Hafsy, it’s always been there. You know. It’s been empowering. And it’s been a period for me where I got to discover myself in a different light, which I think adds up to it been very empowering.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

Take me to a moment when you knew the coaching was working like an Aha Moment where it was like, “oh, yeah… the coaching is working!”

Hafsy

During coaching, I told you about a project. The fact that I was very sure of myself, when I made the decision to embark on such a project. And it came to me easily. I didn’t have to overthink it. I didn’t have to think, what if, what if, what if I fail? What if it doesn’t work? What am I trying to do? Who am I trying to impress. Obviously, that was that was huge. [The project was] a big financial commitment. And the fact that I could easily make that decision. And not just the fact that I easily made that decision. It was that I was so sure that that was what I wanted to do. So for me, that was it. I just knew that 3 months prior or few weeks prior to meeting you, I would never have done that. That was a huge milestone for me from the coaching.

Also, it would be with my personal life. I just became a very chilled person. I could understand things that were happening around me without me wanting to always try to maybe figure it out. I just let things settle before I make an informed decision about things. So yeah, I think that was very personal.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

That’s the beauty of coaching, isn’t it? It’s not, oh, it’s just my career. And I don’t need to worry about this bit over here. It crosses over in terms of professional and personal.

Hafsy

It is very subtle. I think I’ve always said that to you. It’s not all in my face. I felt the pressure to wants to tell you in the next session that, I was able to do this. I was able to do that. No, it was just so subtle. It was happening. And then sometimes when it happens, then I just smile at it. I smile at myself. I smile at the situation. And then I’m like “this is so Gita”. Yeah. And I think I told you during our sessions, that they were really subtle but then the impact was overwhelming, because I just couldn’t believe that that was me! I couldn’t believe that I was in that headspace. Those [great] things were happening to me.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

So, how did it work? What was it about how we worked together, or how I work that enabled you to get those results?

Hafsy

I’m very sure. You are very, very knowledgeable. And it is the fact that you, I could, I could speak to you and feel like it was very persona, like a friend. But, there was this boundary, that also made me feel like, she’s the professional. So, the personal side of it made me feel at ease with you to bring my guard down and just tell you as it is. I remember, when I started working with you, I would sort of hold back because I thought you were working with really senior people, you know, people that are really doing so well. And not people like me that are just, you know, trying to. But you made me feel like it’s okay. And, you know, everybody’s problem or issues are different.

But then you treated it in a very personal way. And as personal as that was, in a very divine way, you made me feel like you are so professional. You know what you’re doing. You listen to me like what you’re doing right now, you listen to me. And you thought, you’ll get it, you’ll get it at some points, and even when I didn’t think it was making sense. Eventually, I would realize, “oh, that was what she meant.” It was that personal touch. But also the fact that you are the professional, you’re very experienced. And you always made me feel like I could do it. Like, you always made me feel confident. And that was because you knew things personally, like on a personal basis for me. And it was also the fact that you just never made me feel small. You never made me feel small.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

This is the beautiful thing that this sense of vulnerability that you brought to it as well, of allowing yourself to experience that and see your greatness, your immense power in the world. Your unlimited potential, which is sometimes a phrase that people use isn’t it’s like, “oh, unlimited potential. I’m limitless.” And that sense of empowerment and enlightenment that you talk about comes from this place of vulnerability of… Ah, yes. There’s a depth there. And I know you said that I made you feel confident

that I believed in you. That was coming from you. Right? Pointing you in that direction of oh, oh, yeah. I get…

Hafsy

You did that you did that. It’s not just from me. I didn’t help that.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

No, we did it together. I mean, it works in partnership. You know, there’s no point me just coaching in the dark. And there’s no point, you or anyone else kind of trying to find the answers to questions in the dark. Or trying to find the questions in the dark. You don’t always know what to ask yourself, then I get the privilege, and my coaches, of asking you the things that that unlock that new way of thinking and thereby new beliefs, new behaviors that come from that and transforming the experience professionally and personally, as you said,

Hafsy

Yeah, that’s true. That’s true.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

We call ourselves Possiblists don’t me. You know, we’re not Optimists. We’re not Pessimists. We’re not Perfectionists. So, what do you see as possible now that seemed impossible. Before we started…

Hafsy

Everything’s seems possible to me right now. Everything’s possible to me. I now feel I feel empowered. (I’m overusing that word). I feel so empowered, I feel like the weight that I’ve always carried around, just seemed like it’s not there anymore, I feel lighter. I feel like I can just jump, I can just, you know, do things easily. And I feel excited, I feel excited for things to come. I’m excited already. I’m starting this phase of my life with a better understanding of what I can do, of what my strengths are. And I’m more enlightened in how to handle things professionally.

If I decide to go back to the corporate world, it’s going be fine. I’ve got all that it takes. If I decide to do my thing in the property industry, I still have all that it takes to do that. And there’s no shame in, saying, “Okay, I left it. And now going back to it.” It became my everyday thing, like, there’s no shame in doing that, you know, things change, like, it’s okay for you to want to go back and do that. But this time around, I’m doing it differently.

I’m more than happy to explore this new phase of my life. Yeah, I don’t know what it was going to be. Obviously, I don’t know what the future is. But I’m very sure it is going to be excited. I’m very sure that we are going to have other sessions. Definitely, I’m very sure of that. And we’re going to have to discuss what the new phase of my life is, based on what I’ve learned, and then obviously, tackling whatever the new challenges are

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

And you’re already there. I mean, what’s beautiful is; you’re an architect, you’re an insurance expert, you’re also a mother, you’re all of these things, and the conversations you’re already having that I know about with people that are, headhunting you, in essence is giving you that clarity around that. I remember you telling me about one conversation was just like an easy, “no”. That setting that boundary was so clear. And you know, and your husband was like, oh, okay, that was clear. And those moments, creating the life that you want without it. And I love that you smiled when you said, I didn’t know what the future holds. Because when we started, it was like, oh, it’s going be this, it’s going be that. So, staying present. It’s so wonderful to see, just go, how do I know what it holds? But I know that I’m empowered, I know that I’m enlightened, I know that it will, evolve, explore is the word you use, which is so divine.

Tell me if you can, in 1 or 2 words, how would you describe where you were when we started and where you are now?

Hafsy

Frustrated? Confused. I wa, very doubtful of who I was and what I could bring to the table, what I could do and what I couldn’t do, and all of that. So, I’d say yeah, those 3 words that right now just came to my head. That’s where I was when I came running to you.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

Where are you now?

Hafsy

Empowered. I’m enlightened. I’m excited. I am a mini version of a mini version of Gita. I am no longer that heavy person. That’s what I see in you remember I told you about like our first meeting. You just seem so light. You know, it’s so divine. And I think that’s it now, I am a different person. I’m not even joking. I am a different person, to my family, to people I speak to professionally. I just seem very light. I’m excited. So right now, I’m empowered. I’ve got clarity now. I’m excited. I’m excited. Excited for what the future holds for me.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

I would say you’re not a Mini Gita? You’re a huge, amazing, full Halfsy? That’s what you are. You told me about the way you’re talking, and how other people feel inspired. You’re a full Hafsy not a mini Gita, that’s for sure. And I’m very, very grateful. I got to play a role in be a catalyst for unlocking that.

So tell me finally, how would you summarize what coaching is for someone that’s watching this and feeling inspired by your story? How would you summarize it for them? And what advice would you give to them if maybe there’s some resistance about time or money or what it will involve?

Hafsy

Coaching with Gita is life changing, it has changed my life. It has changed my life professionally, it has changed my life personally. You wouldn’t know if you’re watching this because you don’t know my story. But it gets me really emotional. That’s because of how far I have come within a very short period of time. And that’s because of coaching.

That’s because I just decided to go for it. I didn’t know what it was. I didn’t even Google it. So, know what coaching is, I because I assumed it was therapy. And that was it. I just knew I needed help. I knew that I was I was out of my depth, I needed help. And it’s an investment in myself that I would never regret. And I have promised myself that this is going to be a continuous theme because I love, I am in love with this new version of who I am.

And I think people my age, people that are even older or younger than me, it’s the reality, you get to a point in your life where things are just a bit chaotic where you just need a little bit of help. And that’s where Gita comes.

And when you think about the money aspect, you have to invest in yourself. When I got to work with Gita, I was thinking maybe if I got a Chanel bag, I will forget about my issues. I decided to invest it in coaching and I can assure you that I am very sure I will get so many other Chanel bags from whatever it was that I learned about myself and what I can do moving forward even financially.

So I’d say go for it. Go for it. Don’t overthink it. And I know that Gita has her company (High Definition You) and has several other people that can coach you, and they can also work. So don’t overthink it. I think just speak to them. And they will definitely help you with whatever it is that you’re going through. Because I’m a testimony. I’m a testimony to that.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

You wondrous one. I’m curious now I want to ask you one final thing because you said “I didn’t Google it” to see what coaching was. If you were writing a line about what coaching is now, that someone Googled and saw like that one line to describe coaching. I mean, what would you say it is?

Hafsy

I kept saying “coaching with Gita” because I don’t know what coaching is with others you know, what other coaches do. But I’ll say coaching with Gita is an experience that sort of opens up your mind to the best version of who you are. And the best version of who you could be you know, with not making you feel overwhelmed or making you feel small or making you feel like you have to do something that is not who you are. That’s it. That’s what coaching with Gita means to me.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

I love that. It’s been such a delight working with you Hafsy, and I’m super curious to explore where you’re going to go to next. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your story.

Hafsy

Thank you very much, Gita, I really appreciate this. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you very much. Thank you.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

Yeah, divine, thank you lovely one. Ah, so beautiful and so connected to who you are. And I just know that someone will watch that and just know, because they’re the same in the same position and they’ll be so inspired by your vulnerability and your truth and your, divineness, your divine full Hafsy in all her glory.

Hafsy

Thank you. Thank you. You’ve done so well. You’ve done so well for me. And I’m very sure it’s the same for the many people that you’re coaching. And I can’t wait for us to explore the new, you know.

See what it is. I can’t wait for us to have different conversations and, you know, to explore what it is. I can’t wait.

Gitanjali – High Definition You Coach

I love that!