Celebrating Romelia: “Changed my life!”
“I was struggling with confidence. I used to worry so much. People have noticed that I now have confidence in myself and my abilities.”
Romelia
Karen – High Definition You Coach
Hi, I’m Karen. I’m a High Definition You coach. And I have been working with the marvellous, Amelia over the past few months, Romelia. So, we’re going to take a little bit of time to get to know a little bit more about Romelia, his journey, and her destination of being High Definition You.
So hello, Romelia, again. Lovely to see you really, really lovely to see you. And it’s been an absolute pleasure to be on your coaching journey with
Romelia
It’s been a pleasure having you.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
Thanks. So before you started coaching, what did your life look like then? And what were you struggling with? In particular?
Romelia
I was struggling with confidence and being able to feel like I owned what I knew, and feeling like I was able to voice my opinion or not. Because I used to worry so much about the ramifications of if I said something wrong, or if somebody didn’t like what I said. And yeah, this coaching has really, really helped and I’ve, I’ve said it to all of my friends.
I’m like, if you can do it, go get coaching because it will change your life. And it has. I know it sounds like quite twee, but it has changed a lot of things for me and I know people are commenting on the change. So it’s obviously been working, which is fantastic.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
That is obviously music to my ears and exactly the experience we want our coaches to have. Were there any niggling doubts? Was there any resistance in your own head before you started off on this journey?
Romelia
Me personally? No. It’s something that I’ve wanted to do for a really, really long time. I’ve always thought that this would benefit me. So I didn’t have any doubts about it. I came into it very well, I hope I came into it very open and honest and really worked with the process because otherwise there’s not really any point in doing it.
And it was absolutely brilliant. For me. It’s exactly what I needed at this particular moment in time. So no, I didn’t come in with any niggling doubts. I just came in with the hope that we’ll be able to not resolve but work on so many issues
Karen – High Definition You Coach
And you’ve had such an attitude the whole way throughout. Throughout it’s been a let’s do this. And I think that’s open-mindedness and, and willingness to be vulnerable and really share, is what’s seen you have such great results.
Absolutely. So specifically, what changes? Or what results have you seen since we’ve been working together, you said that people have noticed stuff, what they noticed.
Romelia
They’ve noticed that my confidence has improved, that I’m owning what I’m saying a lot more, that I’m able to go into meetings with, you know, very senior people and put the plan out on the table.
And so I think that we need to do this in my way, as we have discussed because everybody has their own way of talking about things and dealing with things. But my way has been working for me and yeah, just being able to go in and say, I think that we should be doing it this way.
Because I’m having that confidence within myself and my ability to say, this is what we should be doing. And yeah, like I said, it has been noticed, I’ve had senior members of the team come back to me and say, you’ve really become a lot more confident in the last couple of months about what’s going on.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
High Definition You
Romelia
That’s what I’ve been saying
Karen – High Definition You Coach
Oh, that is just brilliant. Was there? Was there something excuse me, like, an aha moment? Or something specific that you thought ahh, this is the moment that’s changing my life?
Romelia
Yes, I think it was when I went into a meeting and there was lots of humming and earrings and oh, how do we do this? Do we do that? Do you do this? And nobody had kind of thought about another option which I had put out. And like I said in my way, I went and said well, why don’t we just do this and everyone’s like, Oh yeah, let’s do that.
And I thought Ah, so this is so you know, I can voice my opinion and I can get the message across and I can get people to do what I need them to do. But in my way. So good about this coaching session for me that, you’ve always said, it’s, we’re not trying to change you. And we’re not trying to change your personality. But we’re trying to make things work with your personality and for your personality.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
I think that’s really it, Romelia, this competence, this voice, this inner wisdom, that you absolutely have, has to be delivered authentically to you. It’s not about increasing confidence and going in on cast, because that’s not you. It’s about doing it in your own way. So that’s, that’s brilliant, that, that you’ve, you’ve achieved that.
And it’s been noticed by others, and it’s been impactful. So what does High Definition mean to you? What does living in High Definition mean to you?
Romelia
It’s just changed the way I think about myself. My relationships have even changed the way I deal with certain personal relationships, not just work relationships. It’s made me feel a lot more confident in myself and my abilities. And it’s made me be able to speak to people and ask questions that I wouldn’t have necessarily asked.
And knowing that my, as we’ve discussed, the little rabbits that go on in my head and kind of make their little boroughs and stress me out, that’s meeting lots of new rabbits and making lots of new rabbits. That’s, that’s kind of that’s, that’s my thinking. And it’s not necessarily the thinking of the other person and having to keep remembering those things. But it’s, it’s really been a brilliant process for me.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
What was it about the way we worked together that allowed that to happen?
Romelia
I think our chemistry has been really good. I think we just get on and I think, and this is something that I said to a friend of mine who was looking to go into coaching, I said, make sure that you guys have the right chemistry because if you don’t feel that you can be open and honest about pretty much everything. That it’s not going to work.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
I think that’s there. I think it’s not about being in a place of judgement. It’s not about you doing things to make me happy. That’s beside the point. Whether I’m happy or not. It’s about doing things. That’s true and right for you. And from the start, we’ve had a laugh,
Romelia
It’s so much fun.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
The country for goodness sake, and we know it’s crazy. What surprised or delighted you about coaching?
Romelia
Our chemistry has delighted me. And what surprised me about the results? I always thought my stuff was so ingrained in me. I’m not, you know, almost that thing, you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, which turns out he can.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
Absolutely. And what, three words I know, I know, we never used to do things in just one or two words, we usually have a lot more words than that.
Romelia
We don’t know how to.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
We’re not good at the shortening of words. I think that’s where some of the explorations is going down these tangents that we didn’t know were a thing, become a thing, and that that’s been that discovery and that Curiosity has led to really great things. However, if we were to choose any words, what words would you choose to describe your HDU experience?
Romelia
Revealing, empowering and exciting.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
Revealing, empowering, exciting, I love that fever. What t-shirt size like mine, because I’ll get that one a t- shirt. Like if you were to describe, again, we can use a word or a phrase for you. We’re at the start of this journey together and where you are now
Romelia
Can we not use the pictures that we do?
Karen – High Definition You Coach
Oh, we could use our pictures.
Romelia
We could use our pictures! 1 2 3…
Karen – High Definition You Coach
Similar, big eyes messy head on your one week to the clarity of thought and a crown on my one
Romelia
Yeah, I need to clarify that it’s a crown and not a weird hairstyle.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
As images rather than words, I think that that’s the kind of style that we put together and it works by excluding different ways of doing it. Absolutely.
And you said you spoke to you Making friends and people notice this transformation in you if someone was considering taking a step and investing in coaching, because it is an investment of time and of money, and as she said of this vulnerability that’s being able to be really honest. And if someone was considering taking that next step and just doing it, what would you tell them?
Romelia
I would say to you if you can invest, and you do need to be able to invest the time and the money, but if you can invest in it, absolutely do it. Because it will make you rethink the way that you think about yourself, and how you do things. And it’s, it’s a great thing to be able to do for yourself to help you, it’s not to help anybody else.
It’s, almost in a way, a very good selfish thing to do, to help yourself just become more empowered and feel better within yourself. So I would strongly recommend to anybody thinking about coaching, take it and do it. I’d love to do it again. I’m sad that it’s over. What am I going to do?
Karen – High Definition You Coach
I’m sad. And I think that what you said there is really important, that part of it being selfish, because obviously, in you, people have negative connotations about being selfish. But if you think about being selfish, the benefit that you’ve seen in yourself, that’s been felt by you, the people around you and workspace, the people around you in a friendship, space, personal relationships, as well as your own health and your mental health, your own development.
So that investment was up to you and has had that ripple effect on so many other people’s lives. So that’s really special. That’s really great. Amelia, the time has come.
Romelia
I have your number. We’re never going to say goodbye.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
Whatsapp me any time you like! No, absolutely, absolutely. It really has been an absolute joy getting to know you and an absolute pleasure getting to see your journey and your growth in a state of kind of working from home craziness that we’re in the fact that that you’ve achieved so much working from your kitchen, with Lexi popping up and all Yeah.
Oh. And the husband’s living out in the garden shed. He does get back in at night when you let him back.
Romelia
I mean, yeah, sometimes it depends on if he’s behaved or not.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
You are an absolutely terrific HDU master. It’s been absolutely lovely, lovely, lovely, as you know
Romelia
It’s been amazing.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
I’m joyous as well, I would have been Yeah, I kind of feel that, you know, the inner circle and stuff that Gita will talk to you about and that is the kind of keeping in touch and continued progress, albeit more from a group setting as opposed to one to one.
And that’s obviously an option to kind of continue your journey. And I know that you’ve done some of the kind of workshop pieces in the past and hopefully those opportunities will still keep coming up for you too. But just fire me in on WhatsApp every now and then. Don’t be a stranger.
Romelia
Yeah, absolutely. I will. No, don’t be a stranger. Don’t leave me!
Karen – High Definition You Coach
I will absolutely keep in touch and you too and fire me an odd WhatsApp every now and then
Romelia
I will do it. Mostly dog pictures.
Karen – High Definition You Coach
Take care my love and speak to you soon.